The "standard" or "traditional" wedding is fading fast. When it comes to tying the knot, those cobweb-covered customs from days of yore belong in our grandparents' faded photo albums. The present generation of nuptial ceremonies puts less emphasis on the orthodox and gives greater say to the couple-to-be.
Make your own letterpress
Letterpress makes invitations stand out. Not only do the designs evoke a sense of craftsmanship, but they are more intimate because they cater to the sense of touch with their three-dimensional patterns and images.
The wedding market is flooded with pre-made letterpress invites as well as boutique shops that will customize. Take classes and learn the art form, then bring your newly acquired skills to your own wedding with you and your partner making the invitations. Not only will you have learned something new, but you will have bragging rights over your finished product.
Although the official wedding song is all about you and your partner, make the night's music a collective product of all your guests. When you send out an RSVP, ask everyone to write down one or two songs they would like to hear. This will not only involve everyone in the reception, but it will allow you to get an eclectic selection of music that spans the vast spectrum of generations who will be present - from Billy Holiday to Bjork.
Make your own bouquet
ModCloth suggests crafting your own bouquets, corsages, boutonnieres and centerpieces to help save money. Find a discount vendor who will sell you several types of flowers of your choice for a relatively low price. All you need for supplies are scissors for trimming the stems, vintage fabric, pins, glue, tape and ribbons. Recruit the help of your friends and family and get to work. None of the arrangements will be uniform, but the color scheme will still be intact, and the variation between each bouquet and corsage will give your flowers the home-grown aesthetic that will characterize your wedding. You can add these floral arrangements to your wedding favors - like a personalized stemless wine glass or a felt favor bag.